Sugar Control Diet – Week #6

MudslideWeek #6

Mood: Tired

Week #6 Weight Change: Lost 2 pounds

Total Weight Loss: 11 pounds

I promise that this picture wasn’t taken in the past month. It was actually taken a few years ago when Jay and I stopped to eat after a Fun Fly. Mmm… Mudslide… *Drools*

 

So, this week was busy. Our church held our Parish Mission this past week, so Monday and Tuesday after I got home from work I had to be at church by 6:30 so that I could sing for the masses that were held. Thus I didn’t make anything in particular for dinner. I think that I actually had leftovers after I got home each night. I honestly can’t recall.

The challenge this week was to hold myself back on consuming too much fruit. For some reason I wanted to eat every piece of fruit that I saw. A couple of nights an entire can of crushed pineapple disappeared. But I think that it’s better that I give into that indulgence than pouring a bowl of cereal.

My godson’s birthday party is next weekend and I had to tell my friend not to make anything special for me as I won’t be able to eat it. I felt bad that I had to tell her no, but I figured that was better than having her make something and then refusing to eat it, or just eating a little bit so that the rest kind of goes to waste.

Friday night I made a French toast casserole thing for Jay and his mom. It smelled SO GOOD! However, to keep me from being tempted to cheat I made it with regular bread so that I couldn’t eat it no matter what. I think that Jay feels bad about eating things like that in front of me, but I honestly don’t mind it. Kind of like the Rolo’s that I bought him the other night; I bought it for him so I want him to enjoy them. I don’t want him to feel guilty about eating it in front of me. We did have a discussion today about this diet and when I can start eating ‘normally’. He asked me something about sugar and I told him that I would probably stick to Stevia in my coffee and in my drinks. After ridding myself of sugar the last thing that I want to do is become addicted to it again (and that would be VERY easy for me to do!).

I realized tonight just how much I’ve changed my way of thinking. I was at Wal-Mart with my friend and I was watching the lady in front of us unload her cart. She bought “healthy” stuff like diet pop, sugar-laden granola bars, and that kind of thing. Then I watched as she placed Spaghetti-O’s on the belt along with other sugar-laden items. Without realizing it the thought popped into my head, “I can’t believe that she’s going to let her kids eat all of that junk!” YIKES!!! Since when do I think thoughts like that?! This is not good… the absence of sugar had addled my brain!

On the positive side, I had a very nice compliment from Jay’s mom the other night. She said that I looked like I had lost the weight. I know that I’ve noticed it in little ways, but to have somebody come out and say it really made me feel good.

Now if I can only keep it up…

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Dresses for Missions Update 3-1-15

Lent has already arrived and so one of the things that I’ve determined to do during this time of prayer and sacrifice is to spend Sunday afternoons working on the dresses that I love making for those who have a LOT less than most of us.

My friend’s mom went to Haiti last month to watch the graduation for a student that their church had sponsored. Her mother knew what to expect, but even knowing the poverty that existed it still somewhat shocked her when she actually saw it. One of Jay’s coworkers went to Jamaica for a week at the beginning of February to help build houses with his church. Now, this guy is not wealthy by any stretch of the imagination, but even he felt like a millionaire when he saw the poverty there. Needless to say, he returned to the States with only the clothes on his back as he had given everything else away.

The dresses that we make for the Dresses for Missions go to the girls in Haiti who have absolutely nothing. I know that I’ve mentioned it before, but this is why I try to ‘girly’ up the dresses that I make. I want the girls who receive my dresses to feel like princesses. It might only be a scrap of lace and a little bit of ribbon to us, but I would like to think that those little girls feel like the most precious jewel on earth as they wear the dress and feel the lace tickling their legs.

Dresses for Missions #19 2-22-15Dress #19

My mom and sister have provided me with quite a few pillow cases to use for my dresses. This was one of them. Even though it is my nineteenth dress that I’ve made I think that it’s one of my favorites.

It’s very feminine with the pink and purples flowers, and I think that the yellowish cream makes it feel a bit elegant, too. Luckily I had the perfect ribbon and lace to set this dress off.

 

Dress #19 DetailYou can’t tell very well in the picture, but the lace has an iridescent thread running through it so it gives off some of the same colors as the flowers. Then I simply lined the hem with a cream colored silk ribbon. This dress really has to be viewed in person to really appreciate how pretty it is.

 

 

Dresses for Missions #20 3-1-15Dress #20

When my sister was home at Christmas we went to the local Salvation Army to see what they might have for various projects. My mom was looking for cotton sheets and men’s super large cotton shirts for her quilting. My sister was looking for decent fleece and flannel pajamas to make blankets for the humane society where she volunteers. I wasn’t looking for anything in particular, but I happened to stumble across some very pretty pillow cases. I brought them home and washed them. Then they just sat…

 

Until this afternoon. With these busier patterns I try to accent them instead of overpowering what is happening in the fabric. This one I had some pink lace that worked perfectly on the hem, and I accented it with a simple ribbon. You can’t really tell, but it has a felt-like flower pattern embossed on it. I finished it off with a simple line of lace across the top. Very cute and very girly!

I figured that I had to justify the trip that I made to Hobby Lobby earlier this week. That place gets me into trouble every time! Their spools of ribbon and lace were on sale, so I picked up a few more of those to replace what I had used up. Then I found another spool of lace in the clearance area. Oh! And they had some cloth embroidered trim in the clearance area, too, so I grabbed that.

Last weekend Jay installed another light in my sewing room for me and so that has helped a lot. It’s a very relaxing way to spend a Sunday afternoon. Just me and my cats…

Cat Wall in Sewing Room

The good thing about these cats is that they are out of my way, just hanging out on my wall. They don’t whine and they don’t leave clumps of fur all over. Not that I know any cats who would do that…

Chester the Superviosr

 

 

 

 

 

Supervising

 

 

 

 

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Sewing Room Supervisor - Chester

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Sugar Control Diet – Week #5

Chocolate JetsWeek #5

Mood: STRESSED!!!

Weight Loss Week #5 – 1 pound

Total Weight Loss – 9 pounds

*Sigh*

 

Somebody told me that if you do one activity for 30 days that it will become a habit. Umm… okay… Let’s just say that it doesn’t work that way with me. It has been over thirty days on this diet and I’m still craving the stuff that I shouldn’t have. I need to ask my Nutritional Therapist if the first thing we can slowly start adding back into my diet is Applebee’s giant Mudslide…

If ever there was a week where cheating on a diet could be excused, it should have been this week. All I wanted all week was just something sweet… a bowl of cereal, a bowl of ice cream, or even a few marshmallows. I was really in need of a glass of wine, too. Actually, no, I was in need of a GIANT MUDSLIDE!

But I resisted. And I behaved. Ever since I was young I didn’t like to break the rules. My younger sister called me a goody-two-shoes, but that’s just how I was, and still am. I know that if I cheat not only will I feel guilty about cheating, but I’ll feel guilty that I didn’t stick to the very-well-laid-out rules.

Jay loves me as I am, but he’s being very supportive in this effort. I was sharing with him my fears that the weight will come back once I start adding things back in. We discussed that if I actually started to exercise (one of my LEAST FAVORITE activities!) then it would definitely help my current weight loss plus maintaining what I’ve already managed to take off. I would love to get a treadmill again. I used to have one and would walk a few miles while reading. No, I wasn’t just moseying along on it while reading. I would get up to a good pace, make sure that I was into the rhythm, and then pick up my book. I managed to get through quite a few books doing this. That treadmill started to go, though, and I found that the belt would slip enough to make me stumble. It wasn’t worth fixing at that point, and so I haven’t had one since.

Before I can start doing any kind of exercise, though, I need to heal my plantar fasciitis. I might have mentioned this a few posts back, but it’s still pretty bad. It’s to the point where I’ve broken down and decided that I need to start wearing my tendon-stretching boot at night again. *sigh* Yeah, THAT’S really sexy!

I guess that’s all for this week.

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Mending Zippers

Sewing Table areaI haven’t had a whole lot of time to sew lately and my mending pile was growing.

Jay had a couple of sweatshirts that he absolutely loves, but the zippers were no longer working. About a month ago I had ordered some longer, heavier duty zippers online and they’d been sitting around gathering dust.

 

Bad ZipperThis is what happens whenΒ a piece of molten iron lands on your zipper. Luckily it just burned through the zipper and didn’t hurt Jay at all.

I have never ever sewn a zipper in my life. I’ve always heard my mom complain about what a pain zippers are to install or replace so I had tried to avoid it. Jay LOVES this sweatshirt, though, and I can’t find one to replace it. So, ever a dutiful wife, I forged ahead.

Zipper PinnedI ripped the other one out and carefully pinned the new zipper in place. This is a heavier sweatshirt, so I had to bend a few pins before I discovered the best way to pin it.

 

Then I got the zipper foot out of my sewing machine case, put a heavy-duty needle on the machine, and got busy.

 

 

New ZipperYeah! It worked! I even managed to line the pockets up pretty good. I wasn’t too worried as this sweatshirt will be worn to work again where I’m sure Jay will be able to burn more holes in it.

After installing the zipper, I wasn’t quite finished. The same piece of iron that had burned through the zipper had also burned a hole in the right hand pocket. Jay asked if I could please patch that up.

 

 

New PocketIt’s not the prettiest patch job that I’ve ever done, but it works. Again, he’s just going to end up burning holes in it, so I didn’t stress over it too much.

 

 

 

Luckily, I had some help…

Chester the Superviosr

Chester was holding the sweatshirt down so that it wouldn’t move while I was pinning the zipper on it. She’s so helpful!

Luckily I had purchased two zippers, so when Jay handed me another sweatshirt and asked if I could replace that zipper, too, I could say yes.

Old Zipper - 2I’m not sure what happened to the zipper on this one. The teeth all looked fine, but the runner wouldn’t move. It was stuck all the way at the top.

This was the second one that I worked on and it was a little trickier. It wasn’t as heavy and the seven-year-old in China who sewed it together had me a bit flabbergasted. It looked like they had serged the zipper and the edge of the fabric together, then folded it over and ran a straight stitch up along the zipper to keep it in place.

 

New Zipper - 2This one gave me a few more problems than the first one. In fact, I had to re-pin the left side of the zipper about three different times. I finally sewed it on and zipped it up. Close enough for me!

 

Not bad for my first time working with zippers!

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Winter Cross Update – 2-22-15

Winter Cross 1-24-15When last we left this cross stitched piece it was thought that it would never be finished. The words went on and on. Hope was beginning to be lost…

 

 

 

 

 

Winter Cross 2-22-15I am so close! Just three more rows of words and then I get to do all of the backstitching on the cross and the butterfly. Which, I have to ask, why is there a butterfly near the Winter cross? Shouldn’t it be in Mexico or Argentina right now?

 

Almost done!!!

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Sugar Control Diet – Week #4

Vanilla Blossom CookiesWeek #4

Mood – Deprived

Weight Loss Week #4 – 0 pounds

Total Weight Loss – 8 pounds

GRRRR

 

What a disappointment! I was hoping to see the scale move again this week, but it didn’t! This is what frustrates me about dieting… you can be so very good and not see any results at all. You have no idea how tempted I have been this week to cheat! First I was dreaming that just a few M&M’s wouldn’t be bad, but I resisted. Then I was tempted to have a can of my reduced-sugar Pepsi (it’s not diet, it just has less than the full amount of sugar), but I behaved. The worst part was Friday. It was our first Friday of Lent and just to make things easier on myself I decided that I would make Macaroni & Cheese… for Jay.

Let me try to paint you a picture. I make homemade macaroni & cheese using a recipe that I got from a good friend. It is the creamiest, cheesiest and most delicious recipe. In fact, it was one of the things that I made the last week before I started this diet. There really was only one reason why I didn’t have ANY of it Friday night; I made it using regular noodles. If I’d used my gluten-free noodles I know that I would have been tempted to have just a little bit. Instead, I made spaghetti squash for myself (YUCK!!!!) with tomato sauce and veggies. I REALLY don’t like squash at all. In fact, as I was preparing it Jay asked what I was doing (he was afraid that I was going to make him eat it). I told him, “I am hoping that this is going to turn out to be way better than I know that it will.” *sigh* I was trying to be healthy, but it took a lot of tomato sauce to cover the taste of squash! Needless to say, I sent the rest of it home with Jay’s mom that night.

The fact that I was so good all week is what has me really irritated that I didn’t lose any weight. I have been drinking water all week like a camel. Jay takes Powerade to work with him in his thermos and so I use the empty 32 oz bottles for my water. This way it’s easy for me to keep track of how much I’m drinking. No kidding I drank at least 96 ozs of water each day this past week.

I am almost done with this leg of the diet. My Nutritional Therapist said that I would be on the sugar control diet for 30 days, then we would see how things were going and slowly start to add some things back in. I’ll be honest and tell you that I’m scared about adding the stuff back in. I know that I will have to limit how much of it I consume, and when it comes to things like pasta and rice I have a very hard time limiting myself. I don’t want to add one thing back and end up gaining all eight pounds back that first week.

Oh well. I guess that’s all to report for now. I have a bowl of ice cream to go dream about…

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Musical Ability

My First Piano 1986Last week I wrote about the baby grand piano that I am watching for my best friend. So far it is behaving itself, so I don’t have any bad reports to give to her. πŸ˜‰

However, while looking online for more information regarding this particular piano I came across a piano forum where there is information on pianos, repair, practicing, teaching, etc. Basically, anything that you could possibly want to learn about piano and piano music can be found on this site. I have become addicted and check it out about once a day. I haven’t registered, so I’m justΒ lurking atΒ the site right now. I know that’s not proper forum etiquette, but I have to admit that I’m a bit intimidated by the group.

I should probably stop looking at the site. Every time I read a post on there I discover yet another part of my piano knowledge that is seriously lacking. If you want to feel horrible about your abilities then you definitely need to go onto that site.

First I felt inadequate because I don’t play on a $10,000 piano. I play on something that most of those people there wouldn’t deem worthy to be used as pot-hole fill. It is hard to tune correctly, as most of the pianos in its category are, and it’s not meant to be played in a concert hall. After reading these posts, though, I don’t know if I would want to spend the money on the type of piano that they claim everybody should have. One of the pet peeves of the piano teachers are students whose parents don’t get them a decent piano to play. Wow. Talk about snobbery. Sometimes what a student practices on is the very best that their parents are able to get for them. My first piano definitely wasn’t anything that a ‘professional’ would touch. But my grandparents pooled enough money together to buy it for me so that I could begin to explore my love for music. It didn’t matter that it wasn’t a Steinway and that it had been painted five different times. When I was in the piano room, with the door closed, I was actually on a huge concert stage and my fans were all amazed to hear just how beautifully I played. Even today the piano that I have is fine for my use. I am not a concert pianist. I play for my own enjoyment. Isn’t that good enough?

Once I got past the point of being embarrassed about my piano, I went into the teachers’ area to see what was going on there. I figured that at some point I could maybe give lessons if I wanted some extra income. Well, after reading those posts I guess that I’m not qualified to teach anybody’s cats to play piano let alone their children. Per the teachers on there you should have no less than a degree in music and preferably you studied at some fine art school like Julliard. It is their opinion that if you don’t have those kinds of credentials then you are doing more harm than good when it comes to teaching piano.

Now, I realize that I only have a bachelor’s degree in Accounting and that my ten years of piano lessons don’t count because I wasn’t being taught how to play music from memory or getting prepared for majoring in piano. In fact, my best friend left our piano teacher to find somebody who was better and who could teach her way more. My piano teacher was an older woman who lived up the road from us and played organ at church on Sundays. I don’t believe that she ever got a degree in music or any other musical credentials. What she did, though, was give me the musical foundation that I needed. She was the one who taught me music theory and helped me to become a great sight-reader. She taught me how to play piano and organ, which instilled my love for music. It helped me to be a better singer and French Horn player.

I think that I’ve mentioned the fact that I’ve been playing piano at both Sunday masses at church since Thanksgiving. Do you know that when they posted the position of music director one of their qualifications was that the person should have some sort of music degree? I’m not even qualified to direct our choir! They did hire somebody to direct us and he should be starting in a few weeks. He has all of the credentials that they were looking for and apparently he’s wonderful. Everybody has known him since he was little because he used to be a parishioner. So the people in our choir will finally have a leader who knows how ‘they used to do it’.

I was asked last weekend why I don’t ever give myself any credit. When the ‘professionals’ are telling you that you aren’t good enough, then don’t you have to figure that they know what they are talking about? They wouldn’t be ‘professionals’ if they didn’t. Sure, the untrained ear can say what a wonderful job I’ve done, but they don’t really know.

I guess that I need to make peace with the fact that I’m not ever going to be a Julliard-trained musician and that I’ll have to make very amateurish music on my ‘junky’ piano. Actually, I don’t have to make peace with it because I don’t care. My goal was never to be a concert pianist. I technically never even wanted to be in a band, except my high school band. What I wanted to do was to be able to make music that made my heart sing and gave me a lot of pleasure. I have accomplished that goal. And apparently the fact that I’m not qualified to lead my church choir doesn’t mean a thing when they are scrambling just to find somebody to play piano for masses. I’m sure that if it came down to it and somebody wanted to pay me to teach their child the basics of music at a MUCH reduced price (as compared to the ‘professionals’) then I can do that. If the child wants to go on to a more serious teacher, then I will wish them luck and hope that I did enough to give them a good foundation on which to build their musical career. After all, Michelangelo might get the credit for painting the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel, but if a proper footer hadn’t been poured for the building then the whole thing would have long ago collapsed.

Piano Deconstruction 2

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Sugar Control Diet – Week #3

Hershey Bar 2Week #3

Mood: Iffy

Weight Change Week #3: Lost 2 pounds

Total weight change: Down 8 pounds

 

 

I wish that I could say that this week was a piece of cake (Mmmm… cake….), but I can’t. In fact, this was actually almost as hard as the first week. Every time I turned around I was wishing for a cookie, or a candy bar, or a bowl of ice cream. Actually, what I wanted the most was a giant Mudslide at Applebee’s. This week was busy so I found myself wishing that I could just pourΒ a bowl of cinnamon Chex for supper.

Why was it so hard? I don’t know. Maybe due to stress at work? There were a couple times this last week that I wanted to quit and go work at Hobby Lobby (I’ve been told that it doesn’t count as a second income if you spend your entire paycheck at your place of employment!). There were times at work where I just wanted to drink a bottle of full-sugar Pepsi.

I suppose that I should be happy about the weight loss. And I am. I haven’t noticed it, though. Perhaps this week was harder because I am running out of new ideas for meals. Or the fact that everybody had Valentine’s Day candy out in your face everywhere, including new gummy conversation hearts! I’m sure that they were manufactured in a facility that also processes wheat, but a girl can dream.

This next week is going to be another tough one. Jay will be working third shift for half of it. I have Ash Wednesday mass to play at, plus choir practice Thursday night (which means not a lot of time for meal prep), and then since Lent begins on Wednesday it means that we are dealing with meatless Fridays until Easter. Typically I would serve stuff like macaroni & cheese, tater tots, cheese pizza, etc. None of those are currently on my approved diet. Have I mentioned that I hate planning out meals and then cooking? *sigh*

I guess that at mass on Wednesday I should ask for extra strength to get me through this time of struggle while I am attempting to do something that is good for me.

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Baby Grand Piano-sitting!

Piano KeysAs of this past week I am now responsible for the safety and well-being of my best friend’s baby grand piano until such a time as she has room for it again. She took a temporary job in D.C. and was not able to afford a place there big enough to house half of her furniture, let alone a baby grand piano. When she told us Jay automatically piped up that he thought we could make room for it here if that was alright with her. As you know, we already have one whole piano and another piano in lots of pieces. Jay and I really don’t have a giant house, so we had to do some measuring to make sure it would fit.

Piano Moving InWe moved some furniture around, switched out furniture in other rooms, and had Jay’s cousin inspect the floor joists to ensure that they could handle the weight. The piano is going in the family room, which was the addition that a very bad engineer added onto the house and managed to mess a lot of basic construction practices up when doing so. Jay didn’t want a piano falling onto his head if he was playing in his workshop, so we wanted to double check. Jay’s cousin has some kind of building/architecture schooling, so he knows what he’s talking about. He said that we were good to go.

I was nervous that it wouldn’t fit. I had never seen this piano in person before, but I know how much room they take up!

Piano MoversThe morning that the movers were going to show up we cleaned the sidewalks really good (we had received quite a bit of snow that week) and I did my best to ensure that they would have plenty of room to maneuver it. These were professional movers, which was good because Jay and I had watched a few piano moving fails on YouTube. Talk about something that will make you cringe!

 

Piano In PlaceLuckily everything went smoothly! The guys were very professional and didn’t even track any extra snow into the house!

 

 

 

 

Bob on the BenchBob, for some reason, has taken a shine to the bench. I think that it might be because he smells his brothers, Harley and Buster, on it. The piano isn’t anywhere near the heat vent, so I know that it’s not because of that. Also, I know that he’s not laying on it because he likes the sound that it makes. No matter which one I play both of the cats will take off and leave the room as soon as the music starts.

 

Bored ChesterThis weekend I managed to get the family room situated and in some fashion of order. We might end up moving the piano just a little bit, but pretty much this is where it’s going to stay. I took the vacuum to it today to dust it and get any extra cat hair out of it (Bob had already crawled onto the strings once!). Once it has been here for about a month I will call the piano tuner and have him come tune it. The sound/tone isn’t bad, but it’s been a while since it was tuned so I would like to get that done. I’m really going to baby it and take good care of it while I have it in my possession. It’s not every day that you get to piano-sit a baby grand. It has always been my dream to own one, so I will make the most of having one for now.

It’s not anything fancy, it’s an older Kohler & Campbell, but it has character and a voice. I have played it a few times now and am getting used to the touch. The one thing that I’ve noticed is after playing it for about 45 minutes my neck starts to hurt. I must be holding it differently, somehow. I need to take some time to observe what I’m doing. My first instinct is that I’m sitting lower than I would like and so I’m craning my neck up in order to read the music. Jay has said that he can make me a taller bench, but before he does that we’ll have to set the current one up on blocks or something to see if that truly is the problem. I’ll get it figured out, though, don’t you worry.

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Sugar Control Diet – Week #2

Apple Chips

Week #2 Weight Loss – 1 poundΒ  😦

Mood – Okay

So, it’s a bit disappointing that I didn’t see the kind of weight loss this past week as I did the week before. *sigh* I was hoping for another five pounds, but I am trying to stay positive. One pound in the downward direction is much better than one pound in the upward direction!

This week my biggest challenge was trying to figure out what to make for dinner. If I had ideas, then I either didn’t have the time or the ingredients. I have been keeping a food journal so that I can track what I’m doing. One day runs into another and if I didn’t write it down then I wouldn’t have any clue what I had actually eaten the day before.

I did find a new recipe for Apple Chips (pictured above). They are currently in the oven and I can’t wait until they are all crisped-up! They smell really good so I’m hoping that it will turn out to be a good snack that will satisfy my need to eat something crunchy and sweet.

Yesterday I went out with my friend and at dinner I discovered that the restaurant has stevia packets at the table, along with the regular sugar and the Splenda stuff. This was good news for me because I LOVE this restaurant’s sweet tea, but I was not able to drink it yesterday. Instead I ordered an unsweet tea and added a packet of stevia to it. I hate to admit this, but it tasted just as good to me as their regular sweet tea used to! I was HAPPY!

For my snacks at work I have been taking in peanuts and that seems to be helping a lot, too. I noticed this week that I didn’t have any cravings for something sugary, unless I happened to smell it, or read about it online. I was also able to drink the amount of water every day that I am supposed to be drinking. In fact, there were some days that I almost doubled the amount of water that I have been told I should be drinking.

I know that I should be adding more activity into my day so that I can work on losing the weight, but my plantar fasciitis has flared up again. Until I can get that behaving I don’t want to exercise and inflame it even more. Stupid foot tendon!

That’s it for this week. Next week I’ll let you know how the apple chips turned out and if I created anything else interesting during my nightly exercise of just tossing things into a pot and hoping that they all work together. πŸ˜‰

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