Last night while driving home from Jay’s I was listening to a radio program where a lot of young college girls were calling into the show. The male DJ was lapping it up and hitting on every caller. That’s his job. It keeps him employed. At least, that’s what I kept trying to tell myself. lol. This DJ had an intern show up at the station that night and he was a bit upset. It seems that the intern had discovered his new girlfriend parked in front of his house in her car, with one of her friends, and they had been staked out there for quite a while because they’d had a meal or two as evidenced by the food wrappers strewn about the car. The DJ asked women to call in who had stalked their boyfriends before, or who were on the way to stalk their boyfriends. Disturbingly, there were a LOT of women who called into the show!
I’ve NEVER stalked a boyfriend. I’ve also never stalked an ex-boyfriend. Maybe a lot of that has to do with the fact that I never lived near any of them, but that’s beside the point. lol. The whole concept of stalking your current boyfriend absolutely drives me insane. If you don’t trust him enough that you feel the need to stalk him, then why are you dating him? In every relationship there has to be an element of trust otherwise it just won’t work. Trust is one of the most important things to me in a relationship. When you live 50 minutes away from each other you have to know that in between the weekends, when you aren’t able to get together, that you aren’t out cheating on each other. If that person is so important to you that you spend your entire weekends with them, caring for them and doing your best to spoil them, you have to have a very high trust factor. Otherwise, what’s the point?
As TJ from the Ace & TJ Show likes to point out, even the good ones are crazy. I will admit that’s pretty spot on. We all of our own little bouts of crazy. Guys just have to know how much crazy they are willing to put up with. Maybe if the woman is good looking enough then a LOT of crazy is tolerable.
For instance, Katy Perry is a very pretty woman so she would be able to get away with a lot of crazy.
More so than a woman who is pretty in her own way, but not jaw-dropping pretty like Ms. Perry. Somebody like this:
A guy could look at those two pictures and decide that he would be much more willing to put up with Katy Perry Crazy than Kerry Crazy. After all, I’m showing off just how insane I am! I am wearing a dress patterned after an 1863 visiting dress and I’m happy about it! I have more cloth making up my bodice and sleeves than what Ms. Perry has making up the entire dress she’s wearing in that picture.
I guess that I’m just not into the whole ‘psycho girlfriend’ behavior. And I don’t understand the guys who put up with these women. If guys wouldn’t tolerate this behavior then women wouldn’t resort to it in order to get their way. Here’s an anthem to all of the psycho girlfriends and the guys who love them. This is “Psycho Girlfriend” by Jessie James off of her debut album, Wanted.
It has always baffled me why women debase themselves to the point of stalking a man. What happened to dignity and the process of self-exclusion?If he doesn't treat you well, doesn't pay attention to you or is untrustworthy, you stop having anything to do with him. If he wants you, he'll change his behavior and you can try again. If he doesn't change, then clearly he didn't want or value you enough to work things out. Why chase someone like that? Real, honest relationships come with enough adventure and surprises to satisfy even the biggest adrenaline junkies… there's no need to resort to psychosis to get your thrills!